Once we started analyzing the text conversations guys were having with women, it became very clear that most men don't have a specific purpose for texting a woman. You got her number and you're into her, but now that you have it, you aren't really sure what to do with it. And then what happens? Well, nothing – without a specific "destination" in mind, the relationship won't go anywhere... and eventually she becomes just another "lost but not forgotten" number in your phone.
From our research, most guys' texting techniques fall into 1 of 2 categories:
1) First there's the guys that get a number, then go straight for logistics, using texting only to set up the date.
I know why this happens: you had a great time while out with her, so you want to get her back out as quickly as possible to continue that great experience. (Plus, we men are typically much better jiving in person than "chit chatting" on the phone...)
Except one thing: this leads to her flaking on you.
She wants someone who is deeper and more dynamic than just a "logistics guy." If all you do is gun for setting up the date... and there's no other part of the conversation... then odds are the guy who makes her smile and laugh over texts is going to win her heart over YOU-the guy only trying to get her back out.
What you need to understand is if she's attractive, then there are lots of men coming into her life. The only way to keep her attracted long enough to meet back up is to add more depth to your texting than just logistics.
2) Then there's the other guy, who ONLY sends flirty texts and nothing else.
Here's the deal: if it's not ultimately moving the interaction toward a meet up, the text is worthless. Flirting isn't a bad thing-it's perfect for maintaining her attraction-but once you've accomplished that, you need to get her back out with you face to face where you can deepen your rapport.
The relationship won't go anywhere if you don't meet back up.